Coping With Hair Loss
Posted on April 21 2018
At first it is a few hairs that you leave behind on the hairbrush, and then suddenly it is coming out in clumps. A few years ago, my aunt found out she had breast cancer. She was devastated. When I first went to visit her, I walked in on her in the bathroom as she was crying; bend over the sink with clumps of hair clenched in her fists. The one thing she was most terrified of when it came to her cancer journey was the loss of her hair. Eventually she was met with the decision of whether to let all of her hair fall out, or simply to shave it all off. Though she knew she had the option for wigs and other things to take care of the issue, she wasn’t sure how she was going to cope with no longer having hair of her own. Though she ended up deciding to shave it off, she was afraid of the reaction she would get from her husband and her young children.
For those of us who have been in similar situations, and for those who are finding themselves here, there is no reason to be afraid. Losing your hair is not something shameful, and - in a way- it can be a positive catalyst to help you appreciate your beauty in a way you had never imagined before.
However, I do understand how in certain situations it can be difficult to deal with going from having hair to having none. So, when you are going for the “big cut,” keep calm and remember a few things when you do.
Hair loss and children
From the time they begin exploring their world through touch, babies like to feel for their mother's hair. It's a part of the nurturing process, especially while they are still breastfeeding. As they begin to grow, little girls often like to play hairdresser with their mother, and boys often get a kick out of pulling their mom's ponytail - though to this day none of us seem to know why. So it's understandable that hair loss can be a difficult topic to discuss with small children. Older children - in their older adolescence and teen years have a better time understanding why their parent is losing hair - which is good and bad because they can understand the concept of the disease, but they also may be more fearful.
The best thing you can do for your children is to prepare your children for what is about to happen. Explain what the process is going to look like, and assure them that everything will be okay!
Though sometimes this subject can be difficult to discuss, so many women decide to keep their balding a secret and use a wig to conceal it until their natural hair grows back.
Hair loss and your partner
Hair is sexy — especially if you are a woman. Losing your hair may make you feel less attractive and seductive - making the whole process much more difficult than it should be. Of course, the intimacy you have with your partner, or can establish with a new partner, doesn't necessarily depend on looks. Though appearance may be the original point of attraction between you and your partner, attraction to appearance is not going to change because you are minus your hair.
You and your partner have to come to terms with the other changes to your body that come with the traditional aging process, but for some reason the loss of hair is always the most difficult aspect to come to terms with. The most important thing you can do when you are dealing with hair loss is open communication between you and your partner about what you are feeling. Trying to stay strong for the other person can cause other rifts that can detrimentally hurt your current relationships.